We talk most when there’s a chance we won’t talk again.
It’s an uncomfortable comfort.
It makes me miss her & she isn’t even gone yet.
"blinded by your emotions"
^ Continued lack of acceptance regarding your own responsibility. Continued lack of answering questions about yourself.
Lacking vulnerability, are you?
My actions and attempts to challenge your most internal fears of connection, continue to push you away, continue to cause you to push back, the fears that you have will cut me out, before they cut themselves out.
«I do my thing and you do your thing.
I am not in this world to live up to your expectations,
And you are not in this world to live up to mine.
You are you, and I am I, and if by chance we find each other, it’s beautiful.
If not, it can’t be helped.»
Expound on the concept:
There is no right or wrong;
only agreement or disagreement.
(If one thinks of themselves as right, and the other as wrong, power in the mind shifts, and bias enters.)
(If one sees the situation as a disagreement, conflict is present, but the values of each party are neutral, in that disagreement is a lack of understanding, not an expectation.)
(As long as one avoids thinking about any aspect of the situation as right or wrong, disagreements can be unfolded until agreement/understanding is established.)
There is nothing more dangerous, more lethal for the loved person than to be loved, as it were, for not what he or she is, but for fitting the ideal.
All too often, when we love somebody, we … accept him or her … insofar as this person fits the co-ordinates of our fantasy. … Which is why, when we discover that we were wrong, love can quickly turn into violence.
— Slavoj Zizek
(conflict of perspective is conflict in perception)