Expound on the concept:
There is no right or wrong;
only agreement or disagreement.
(If one thinks of themselves as right, and the other as wrong, power in the mind shifts, and bias enters.)
(If one sees the situation as a disagreement, conflict is present, but the values of each party are neutral, in that disagreement is a lack of understanding, not an expectation.)
(As long as one avoids thinking about any aspect of the situation as right or wrong, disagreements can be unfolded until agreement/understanding is established.)
There is nothing more dangerous, more lethal for the loved person than to be loved, as it were, for not what he or she is, but for fitting the ideal.
All too often, when we love somebody, we … accept him or her … insofar as this person fits the co-ordinates of our fantasy. … Which is why, when we discover that we were wrong, love can quickly turn into violence.
— Slavoj Zizek
(conflict of perspective is conflict in perception)
One thing, I try to be honest. And what is revealed is often rather hideously unflattering.Sylvia Plath, The Unabridged Journals of Sylvia Plath (via fleurstains)
what is madness —
is it valued —